Phooey to snarky “rules”

A couple of people have taken me to task for not responding to their comments or not replying immediately to their emails, pointing out that blog etiquette means I’m supposed to reply and reciprocate by visiting their blog.

Well, phooey to their snarky idea of the “rules” of blogging.

I try to reply to all emails I receive but it can be a week or two before I have time to do so, thanks to the demands on my time.

I also emphasise “receive” as my ISP’s spam filter tends to filter out emails sent via gmail, Yahoo! Mail and a couple of others. I’ve tried disabling their filter, but then I get far too much spam so people should use a mail provider that’s less likely to see your address regarded as spam.

As for replying to comments on this blog, I do my best to respond a couple of times a day but I can’t reply to every individual comment that’s left. I have a croft to work, boys to look after and a life to lead—all those come first.

Finally, visiting other blogs in response to people coming here and leaving comments. Yes, I do visit some and I do leave comments on a few, particularly where I feel I can make a useful contribution or help.

But reciprocating visits from other bloggers must, by necessity, come a long way down my list of priorities.

As always, if you don’t like my approach or attitude on this, then don’t come here and don’t leave comments. But if you do, then I will try to respond here or via email and I may, at some point, visit your blog.

30 Responses to “Phooey to snarky “rules””

  1. Good for you, Stonehead, you tell ‘em. I’m in the camp of “no obligation blogging”. One does what one does when one does as it feels right and fits ones values.

  2. I’m really going to have to go to bed. The quality of my written English is going to pieces, which is always a sure sign that my brain is even more frazzled then usual. Another post to clean up tomorrow, the next day or next week… :D

  3. Well stated Stonehead. I’m in complete agreement with you. If blog reading is reciprocated, comments left – that’s a nice perk. However, there are no ‘informal”rules of blogging which is good, because then we can all get on with our varied lives and occupations. That you respond to comments, given the great value of your blog and your very organized and busy life, amazes me. Your blogs are informative, you share your knowledge of farm-steading and efforts at self-sustaining life. A lot to admire! You do not need to respond to this! G

  4. Don’t sweat the small stuff Stoney. The truth is that you don’t owe anyone anything for blogging. Blogging by it’s very nature is a giving activity. If after a day of providing for your family and still finding the time to blog, you still want to correspond and read other blogs then I say good on ya. However anyone that demands your time and efforts probably deserves neither.

  5. Good on ya mate!
    Blogging is great, but most of us have to work for a living. It scares me when people have time to comment on everything. they can’t be working if they have that kind of time, so what is their opinion worth?

    Happy farming!

  6. Who are these self-absorbed amateurs who think they know blogging etiquette? They are incorrect. Trust a person who makes her living off blogging and who wrote a major University paper on comparative etiquette, they are incorrect in the extreme.

  7. There are rules for blogging?? Oh, well that’s something else I have learned.

    I don’t have a blog myself, but read this one and Bean Sprouts every day. I have also contributed to a few forums in my time, but found that it was simply not possible to do all that I wanted and needed to do in the real world and be a forum member too. In fact on one forum it seemed to be a major thing to hit 500, then 1,000 posts then 2,000 and so on. Everyone busy congratulating each other when a milestone was reached. I did wonder how I was supposed to do that and also have a real life!

    museditions has put it in a nutshell for me. Well said.

  8. I think they’re stats junkies. People who only visit other people’s blog only in an attempt to get their numbers. Quite sad, really.

    And if they’re not stats junkies, they’re just snarky and need a kick up the pants. Hence this post.

  9. I’m with the others. Frankly I’m amazed you have the time or energy to write your blog in the first place.

  10. Time is the easy part. I can always find five minutes here, 10 minutes there. Now, for instance, I have the Big Lad ready for school, the Wee ‘Un is tucked up on the sofa (he has a cold) and the Other Half has just left. Everything is in order so I have a few minutes spare before the school bus arrives and the next stage of the day kicks off.

    Mental energy is another thing altogether. From early spring through late autumn I write most posts of an evening, after 10pm, so there are days when I can’t write anything and there are days when the quality of my writing is abysmal as I can barely string two words together. Last night was like that as I was still doing paperwork and pricing weaners until almost 10pm, and then I had a few posts to write. I managed to finish two and draft another for finishing today, but by 11.05pm I was done.

    I enjoy writing, though, and the blog is an extremely valuable source of social contact for me, so I’m quite happy to continue, although I do get a little tetchy with fools, twits and snarks. Of course, you’re suppose to charm the last with smiles and soap but I’m too curmudgeonly for that!

  11. How absurd! It’s your blog and you should do what you want with it! You’re not a free advice service to be tapped into whenever someone feels like it! The fact that you write such detailed posts EVERY DAY is surely enough?
    If they don’t like it, they should go elsewhere!

  12. As for why I find time to blog, Sarah H (a student doing the University of Kansas’ Media and and Evironment course) summed it up very well when she wrote:

    I always thought, “Who the hell are these bloggers? Who has time to blog? Don’t these people have real jobs?” Now I know the answer is that they’re people, just like me, who are passionate and have something to say. They squeeze blogging into their lives because they care and yes, most have ‘real’ jobs because blogging (in most cases) provides little to no income. (Suprise!)

  13. Expecting someone to respond to every message and make reciprocal blog visits is ludicrous. It is like expecting a person to visit every takeaway that drops a leaflet through your door! If I get a (semi-personal) letter through my door saying a total stranger is interested in buying my house (happens a lot round here) I’m not obliged to phone tem to say no thank you. I don’t have to fill and leave out a bag for the local charity just because they put it through my letterbox. My Door, my letterbox, my house, my life. A blog is no different, your comments page, your blog, your world, your life. You don’t have to live it the way someone else says!!

  14. Phooey indeed! I wonder just when some of these people leave their computers.

    As for why people blog, I suppose there are as many reasons as there are bloggers. I do it because I like the social interaction in English, living in Japan and mostly speaking Japanese in my daily life.

    I can’t remember when I stumbled across your blog, but I love it for the gardening, the similarities in the climate to where we live now, and the tast of Britishness in your cooking and the landscape in your photos.

    I don’t need you to visit or comment on my blog! I am happy simply to lurk around yours. Lurrrrk, lurrrk…

  15. Okay, have stopped laughing enough to write a comment now. My goodness, you really do attract some strange and wonderful people, don’t you!

    I have difficulty in imagining how anyone thinks comments like that might in any way help their case. If increasing their stats is what they’re looking for, being obnoxious isn’t exactly the way to go. I’m definitely not bloody-minded like you are, but my nature is perverse enough that someone trying to force me (or guilt trip me) into doing something is going to have exactly the opposite effect.

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